Ep. 64 - How to Resurrect a Marriage

Every marriage goes through it’s ups and downs but that doesn’t mean it should suffer through an affair and ultimate divorce. But for some it does. Like our guests, Mark and Jill Savage. While the affair did happen, thankfully the divorce did not. As you might expect, a lot of work, forgiveness, counseling, tears, and grief went into resurrecting their marriage. And now, they’re more in love than the day they got married. So why should you listen if your marriage isn’t on the rocks like theirs was?

When you listen to the steps they took to reconcile their marriage, you can apply that to yours to strengthen it. Your marriage does not have to be in disrepair to benefit from their story. In fact, they talk about the slow fade that most marriages go through. An affair or divorce doesn’t always occur due to this slow fade but what usually happens is a marriage that is just going through the motions. 

But that’s not what you want, right? That’s why you listen to our podcast. To get tips and tricks to strengthen your marriage from those that walked in your shoes. 

So listen up to this episode. 

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Key takeaways:

• Lack of identity led to the affair
• Romans 12:9-21 was source of strength for Jill 
• She never gave up hope
• Jill stopped being critical
• Mark released his “list” of Jill’s wrongs
• Mark started to resurrect their marriage on Easter
• There are 7 slow fades in most marriages
• They identified their top 2 slow fades - avoid emotion and unrealistic expectations
• Identifying the slow fades was the key to reconciliation
• Faith in God was the strength that brought them through. 

Biography

Mark and Jill Savage are passionate about encouraging, educating, and equipping families.  After serving in church ministry for twenty years, the Savage’s are now meeting the needs of families as authors and speakers. Known for their honesty, humor, and practical teaching, Mark and Jill bring hope and encouragement to every audience.

Jill Savage is an author and speaker who is passionate about encouraging families. She is the author or co-author of fourteen books including Professionalizing Motherhood, My Hearts At Home, Real Moms…Real Jesus, Living With Less So Your Family Has More, No More Perfect Moms, No More Perfect Marriages (with her husband Mark), and her most recent release Empty Nest Full Life.

Featured on Focus on the Family, Crosswalk.com, Family Life Today and Today’s Christian Woman magazine, Jill is the founder of Hearts at Home, an organization that encouraged moms from 1994-2017. Jill and her husband, Mark, have five children, three who are married, and eight grandchildren. They make their home in Normal, Illinois.